For those of you that immediately proclaim “Of course we are!”, are you 100% sure the other half of the “we” would agree?
In our opinion, we’re now in the middle of a period of time when relationships are going through a major redesign.
In an age where we’re constantly bombarded with mixed media and messaging about what a relationship should look like, people are unsatisfied in love; people don’t know how to make relationships work - the old paradigm is breaking down.
And this breaking down is ensuring “we” move towards more conscious relationships.
What is a conscious relationship?
It's a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth, both as individuals, and as a couple.
When a couple agree that their union is about growth, that union becomes an evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone.
Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.
And what growth are we talking about? We’re talking physical, mental, emotional and spiritual growth.
So are you are a conscious couple?
Here are 4 telltale signs that you are…
Under the old paradigm, you might have wanted your partner to act in a certain way, and in turn you repressed parts of yourself to please them.
If you have expectations are that aren’t being met, and are repressing your natural way of being to please your partner, the relationship will, inevitably, start feeling feeling like a prison that you want to break out of.
But the truth is: you’ve imprisoned yourself.
On the other hand, the conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they know that this is the key to keeping the relationship fresh and alive – and the love between the couple will too.
Even though it may be unsettling, the conscious couple is willing to strive towards growth, even at the risk of out-growing the relationship.
We all have wounds from the past, and we know that these wounds will inevitably be triggered, especially in a relationship - abandonment, feeling trapped, undervalued, or any number of other programmed reactions that may arise when we bond closely with another person.
Each partner is willing to analyse their past issues in relationships because they know that by addressing them, those dysfunctional patterns can be dissolved and they can in turn ensure their new relationship evolves into a healthier one.
In a conscious relationship, you have permission to feel how you feel, and you also have permission to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner.
Now of course this may be easier said than done - but it’s also one of the most transformative and healing things that couples can experience.
Being brutally honest, and allowing your partner to be the same, may be an incredibly scary prospect, and it may also trigger unwelcome feelings that you may not have had a chance to dissolve– but it’s authentic as fuck and leads to feeling like your partner really knows you, sees you, and truly understands you: a combination that will really enhance your love!
Changing ourselves and/or trying to change those we love actually stifles connection – under the old paradigm, partners did this to ensure their significant other didn’t stop loving them.
But in reality, radical honesty leads to a far deeper connection as noted above.
Sometimes we treat love like it’s a destination, searching for that blissful feeling all the time; and when it’s not there, we become dissatisfied.
Instead, we should be approaching love like it’s a journey and an exploration – a practice of being present, surrendering, forgiving, and trusting.
It’s about accepting everything that appears in your relationship and asking yourself “If I’m going to embody love, what would I do here?”
The answers will always surprise you, and will lead to unimaginable personal growth and experience.
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