How do you communicate with your partner in times of stress?
The good news is that a simple problem like socks on the floor, or forgetting to take the trash out doesn't necessarily have to tear your relationship apart. All you need to do, is learn how to use "Nonviolent communication".
Importantly, nonviolent communication doesn't refer to any conversation you have with your partner where you avoid trading blows. If there is any physical violence in your relationship, then you need to run the other way as quickly as possible. Instead, nonviolent communication is about talking to your other half in a way that allows you to avoid attacking, blaming, or judging the other person for their actions.
Understanding Nonviolent Communication
Nonviolent communication might sound simple enough, but it's honestly a lot more challenging than you might think. Typically, nonviolent communication means finding a way to express yourself without shaming the other person in the relationship, trying to make them feel guilty, or using any threats to get the outcome you want.
If you can do it effectively, then nonviolent communication can be very useful, as it prevents the other person in the argument from going into defense mode, and it can preserve more of your relationship. Overall, your goal should be to use a deep and compassionate awareness of your own situation, combined with honest self-expression, to let someone else know how you feel, and how you hope you can resolve a situation.
The 4 Steps of Nonviolent Communication
There are four steps to using nonviolent communication in your relationship.
The Power of Nonviolent Communication
Seems simple enough, right? With nonviolent communication, there's no overly-emotional attacking of the other person. Instead, you simply state your needs, and hopefully open a pathway for discussion where you can find a solution that suits both of you.
For more detailed information on this subject, try reading:Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
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